New Year’s Resolutions ~ To Do or Not To Do
I go a little "Hamlet" on the whole New Year's Resolutions. To do, or not to do? That is the question.
On the one hand I set them.
On the other hand, I don't do them for more than a week. (Okay, that's an exaggeration, I break by day 3).
Is it the pressure? The distractions? Am I weak?
New Year's resolutions skeptic
The Urban Dictionary defines New Year's Resolution as:
"A goal that you propose then forget the next day." I'm in this camp.
Here's a past New Year's Resolution list I found in one of my old notebooks:
- Don't eat sugar anymore (The night before binging on Milky Way® bars, Haägen dazs® Dulce de leche and all things sugar as if it was "The Last Supper").
- Lose 5 pounds (Okay, it really was 12 pounds).
- Workout 6 days a week (Reality: Workout on 1 or 2 days, every other third week of an even month).
- Learn French (or Spanish, depending on the day and my Cuban side of guilt).
- Start Dating (But not until I have at least accomplished resolution #2).
My New Year's resolutions failure
I still remember the end of that year re-reading this list. I beat myself up thinking, "Something must be wrong with me! Why can't I just stick to my New Year's resolutions!"
It took me some time to figure out that resolutions felt forced, external. "Nose to the grindstone" and "no pain no gain" thinking didn't work for me.
Subtle soulful goals
I realized, just like most of my clients, I make better progress by not trying to control, and instead letting go of perfection.
For me resolution - to be resolute, almost has a ring of force, unyielding, unwavering in a negative sense. I like to wave, to bend if that will bring me happily closer to my goals, dreams and desires.
Being kind to myself, accepting myself exactly where I am while imagining where I want to be, allows me to let go of the struggle and move forward.
I prefer soulful goals. It's subtle. Like being resolved, I am determined, I am willing to go the distance, however I accept that distance is likely not a straight path.
I believe accepting that you want to change something, and then focusing your energy on imagining it already changed, is the first step.
Not making resolutions, which are of the mind separate from the soul.
Affirmations instead of resolutions
So this is what I'm doing this year:
I'm setting Soulful Goals through Affirmations for this New Year in place of New Year's Resolutions.
- I love eating sugar-free foods.
- I am ready to eat healthy, real foods.
- Daily exercise makes me feel energized, focused and vibrant!
- I now attract my ideal mate.
So tell me what side of the fence you're on. Do you set New Year's resolutions or not? Do you find resolutions focus your actions or make you feel bad in the long run? Let me know in the comments, because as I said, I'm a bit Hamlet on this one.
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